The Boys Know.....................

Well, it's official......her boys are in the know about us.  Funny, we have been sweating this one for several months.  We have prayed and worried and made ourselves near sick....and we come to find out THEY ALREADY KNEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  She had planned to tell them sometime this week, before the end of September.  Then, we ran into a friend of her younger son's dad (the friend's dad, that is) at a party on Saturday night.  He mentioned that his son had told him about us and that he got this information directly from her son!  Needless to say, we were stunned!  So she went home and thought a lot.  I thought a lot too.  Our thoughts were these:  1.  they obviously know, but for how long had they been sitting in this? 2. for however long they have known, they have still acted like they love her.  3. her oldest son still kept the necklace around his neck that I gave him, and even thanked me for a birthday present, so they don't hate me  4.  they can't be completely ashamed if one of them shared the news with a friend. 

The next day she told them that they needed to have a talk and to meet back at the house at a certain time.  The oldest son sent a text a while later stating that he wanted to stay at a friends house a while longer and jam (he's a musician), and then the text went something like this...."if this talk is about you and Stacy's relationship, I already know and it's no big deal..."   Well, of course, there were still things to be discussed so she summoned him home a while later and opened a discussion forum with her kids about us.  Both just shrugged their shoulders and said it was okay, they love their mom, they like me just fine, and that it just wasn't such a big thing!!! She stated very clearly so that they would not think this was some crazy phase or something that we are IN LOVE, that this relationship is here to STAY.  She told them this would not directly affect what their lives would look like in the short term, and then they all hugged!  CAN YOU BELIEVE IT???????  What amazing kids! 

Now we aren't totally naive to think that there won't arise some negative feelings in the future about this.  But all this time we had worried they would scream, yell, be unable to function, be hit as if with a boulder crushing their whole world!  Perhaps it is beccause they already knew.....they had been able to process this slowly, probably not believing it, but finally admitting to themselves that yes, this must be what is really happening.  I don't know.  But I know we prayed our asses off and God answered.  He somehow, in his Infinite Grace, spared those boys from the devastation that this might have created.  I also attribute it to her wonderful upbringing of such sweet, tolerant, wise and accepting young men.  She is an inspiring mom, to be sure.  God, I love her so much!